I know that's hard to hear because we want them back SO BADLY that it hurts, and you believe that you are really ready to see or hear from them. But I believe spirit tend to stay away to help with our grieving. It reinforces their absence to allow us to process that they're not going to be around any longer. That is why they often don't come through to mediums either with a message that they are still around - it will just mess with our heads.
Think about it, have you ever tried getting over an emotional break-up while having to see your ex-partner on a regular basis? In the early days it's so very hard, which is often why it's easier to turn to hating them than continuing to acknowledge your positive feelings for them
So maybe this will help instead. If they can't be around for you, maybe I can tell you what you really want to hear.
The three most common questions I hear from those left behind, about their loved ones in spirit are:
'Are they OK?', 'Do they know I loved/forgive them?' and 'Do they forgive me?'
I firmly believe, and have found through many years of spirit communication, that once someone has passed over they most certainly know how much you loved, and continue to love them.
My belief is that they become part of a large energy which I believe is unconditional love and they are no longer concerned with human emotions. They see the bigger picture. They see the interconnectedness of life and death, of everything. And they cannot help but continue to love you, to forgive you and most certainly they do not judge you.
I have to tell you that I have never known a spirit who has passed to hold on to the human conditions that we become used to. On passing they become so much more aware and enlightened, they let go of the emotional trappings that come with being human, and forgive and let go of so much that may have troubled them while they were alive.
Some other points that may help with the grieving process.
When your memories of your deceased loved one begin to fade, I really do not believe that they feel hurt by this. It is natural so that you can continue to live a life without them in their physical form. They know this, and they want you to carry on living your life to the full.
I also ABSOLUTELY 100% believe that they will be feeling loved and no hurt or pain or suffering at all.
I truly hope that this helps you in difficult times, or with dilemmas and grief that you might be facing
Helen Leathers is a lifelong intuitive, clairvoyant and medium, some would say psychic. Helen prefers the term 'a naturally modern mystic'. Helen teaches, inspires and encourages spiritual growth, personal and psychic development.
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